A regular feature in Manitoba was “The Wedding Social“… basically a great big party to raise money to help offset the costs of an even bigger party ie “The Wedding”.
You find a cheap hall to hold it in with a crappy music system, your friend’s band would play, you’d charge a reasonable amount for drinks to make a little but not gouge the wallet, food would be rye bread, kubasa and sliced meats, cheese, slap on some mustard and mayo and voila! Oh and there would be pickles – lots of pickles! Plus a generous side helping of chips and pretzels.
Add to this donations of weird and sometimes wonderful assorted items for raffle / draw / bidding wars! Generally it would be a good time full of laughter and cheer while happening to raise some money too. Real people, real times together in a real community.
Then along came crowdfunding… with its global reach, click of a button payments and the pleas to support, share, begging help!
Now I’m all for supporting good causes, helping out a friend but there are some strange ones out there.
Honestly, is it really my responsibility to fund your dream vacation?? Adoption costs?? If you can’t afford these, why do them? So then why do I feel guilty?? Why do I have images of hands reaching out for money grabbing the way street urchins do in Mumbai?
Why do I feel like the complete “Scrooge” for being reluctant to help you with your holiday? For me, it is just being smart, recognizing the reality that sometimes work comes and sometimes it doesn’t – especially when I’m between projects.
If I can’t afford something, I don’t do it, buy it, etc. And I’m certainly not about to ask someone else to pay for it.
I get that it is darn difficult to make money in creative ventures. Heck – when my partner does a play, what he is paid doesn’t even cover the cost of the petrol used to drive for rehearsals let alone make money. It literally costs HIM to indulge his love of live theatre.
The days of government funding the arts are gone, wealthy patrons are few and far between… so yes I think it is rather cool that it is possible to kick-start recording a new album so can completely get behind that one!
But… am I just being an old fashioned fuddy duddy by drawing the line at holidays and adoption costs?
Or should I just stop hankering for the “Socials” of yore and get with the times?