A funny thing happened this week. A friend of a friend passed on an urgent request for stories of American women between 40 – 60 years of age who relocated to Asia around 5 years ago to set up a business.
The story is for a feature in O Magazine – yup that is the famous Ms Oprah Winfrey folks!
Now, I’m Canadian not American and while I fit the right age range, I don’t meet the ‘last five years’ criteria - I came to Asia in 1990, then again 1995 and finally settled down in India in 2003.
And my move back certainly wasn’t start a candy shop or some other cool business venture.
Truth be told I’m a very reluctant entrepreneur.
They apparently proposed my profile anyways… however I know there are too many cool American women out there! This lass from north of the border won’t make the final cut…
However it prompted me to think of all these amazing adventuresome women I know (and keep meeting!) who are from one country and moved to another… be it from Mumbai to Vietnam to Indonesia or Indonesia to India to Singapore and back, Australia to India, Canada to China…
- A common thread with all these women is they packed up and moved on their own
- Another common thread is as they transitioned from their twenties to thirties to forties and for some fifties, most do not have ‘permanent partners’
Men (and in some cases women) came into their lives, enjoyed a good romance or romp for some time but did not remain.
Is it their restless spirit?
Or is it that potential partners just can’t keep up?
Or is it that finding a kindred soul with anyone less adventuresome and transnational simply isn’t enough?
A few months ago, this topic dominated a rather interesting gathering of women in Jakarta.
All were strong, attractive, successful women in their chosen paths. None had steady partners.
Most liked the concept of having someone to share their lives but in societies that still has conservative threads, early marriage for most… they were too busy having adventuresome lives to get hitched! And now, bemoan that ‘potential’ men nearly universally fall prey to the ‘pretty young things’ rather than consider remarkable mature women.
There is a stereotype of older white guys coming to Asia and hooking up with sexy young Asian wives.
What about the women that do not need a ‘sugar daddy’?
Who frankly can more than hold their own? If anything, intimidate the crap out of most mere mortal men…
What is it with you men folk?
Can’t you see these gorgeous, accomplished, humorous, fabulous females?! Yeah, so there may be a few wrinkles and they don’t have 20 something figures, but come on – wouldn’t you rather an intelligent witty conversation with shared interests and someone ‘age appropriate’?
Single men – just what’s up with you dudes?